January 19, 2025, Saint Barnabas Lutheran Church, Howard Beach, Queens, N.Y.
Jesus is at a wedding.
This is not strange because we know Jesus likes to party. He knows his critics call him a “glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners (Luke 7:34)” but it doesn’t stop him from eating and drinking.
It’s important to remember this aspect of Jesus’ life. It puts a wholesome perspective on Christian living. We are called to love God, love our neighbor, welcome the stranger, feed the hungry, free the prisoner, seek justice, take holy naps, and unwind with a pint of ice cream or a good chianti.
The latter, of course, in moderation.
So we must ask ourselves whether it’s a good idea to ask for more wine at a party after everyone has drunk their fill. Perhaps we have been guests at weddings where it would have been a good idea to close the open bar sooner rather than later.
After my tenure as an editor for American Baptists I spent three happy years as a reporter for a small Philadelphia daily. One night the editor received phone calls from guests at a wedding where a fight broke out. Not just a fight. A brawl. People were arrested and some called the local paper to make their side of the story was on the record. The editor told me to look into it.
I started making calls and, to my surprise, everyone wanted to talk about it. This is not how people normally react when a reporter calls.
I quickly pieced the story together. There was an open bar. The groom was from a large Italian family and the bride was a from a Philadelphia family with roots going back to William Penn.
“The bride’s family wanted the DJ to play Andy Williams music,” a member of the groom’s family told me. “Hey. Moon River at a party? No way!”
“They insisted on Frank Sinatra music,” said a member of the bride’s family. “Who did they think we were? Mobsters?
Unable to compromise, members of the wedding party started throwing fists. I thought this was an inauspicious start for the happy couple. But I wrote it up and the editor printed it under the headline, “Send In the Clowns.”
I think we can safely assume the wedding party at Cana was under better control.
But what would a wedding in Jesus’ day be like?
According to Msgr. Charles Pope of Washington, D.C., the wedding at Cana would have taken place over several days and the entire village gathered for the celebration. That’s why it’s no surprise that Jesus, his mother, his family, and all his disciples were there.
“The bride was carried in a litter and in procession,” Msgr. Pope writes. “She was beautifully dressed and along the way people sang wedding songs that were traditionally known and largely drawn from the Song of Songs in the Bible: Who is this coming up from the wilderness like a column of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and incense made from all the spices of the merchant? (Song of Songs 3:6) When the procession reached the bridegroom’s house, his parents bestowed a traditional blessing drawn from scripture and other sources. After the prayers, the evening was passed in games and dancing and the bridegroom took part in the festivities. But the bride withdrew with her bridesmaids and friends to another room assigned for her.”
The next day was the feast, “a day of general rejoicing and a sort of holiday in the village,” Pope writes. Gifts were exchanged, songs were sung, and wine was consumed.
Given that the party took place over five to seven days, it makes sense that all the wine jars would empty before the feast ended.
It’s at this point that John introduces Mary, the mother of Jesus, for the first time. There are no nativity stories in John. The writer of John would have known about the birth narratives in Matthew and Luke and may have assumed they were common knowledge.
And suddenly Mary appears to her son and declares, simply, “They have no wine.”
It’s not exactly a request for Jesus’ intervention, but we all know what she means. My mother would also state simple facts and I knew exactly what I should do about it. “This room is a mess.” “There are dirty dishes in the sink.” “There are muddy shoe prints on the kitchen floor.”
These are not simply declarative statements. They are calls to action. And Jesus knows what she is asking.
“Woman,” he says, using a term that sounds a little rude, “what concern is that to you and me? My hour has not yet come.”
Mary, in the style of mothers everywhere, turns silently away, a move calculated to prick the conscience of any first born. She calls the servants and says loudly enough for Jesus to hear it, “Do whatever he tells you.”
It may strike us as odd that the Mary we think of as a humble country girl is summoning servants and telling them what to do. Some scholars speculate that the happy bride and groom are part of Mary’s and Jesus’ family and she feels obligated to make sure the wedding feast goes without a hitch.
So why does Jesus, the best son any mother could have, seem to hesitate?
Brian Peterson Professor of New Testament at Lutheran Theological Southern Seminary in Columbia, S.C., observes that Jesus sometimes said he would not so something and then do it.
“At the start of chapter 7 Jesus tells his brothers that he will not go to Jerusalem, but then he goes ‘in secret,’” Professor Peterson writes. “At the start of chapter 11 Mary and Martha implicitly ask Jesus to come and heal Lazarus (or at least come to be with them during this difficult time), but he waits for two days before leaving for their home.
“In our text, too, Jesus seems to resist the request of his mother before addressing the situation. In this pattern of behavior, Jesus distances himself from any kind of authority his family or friends might assume over him.”
So Jesus changes his mind. That’s okay. Flip-flopping is not a sin, and in many cases it pushes you in the direction you need to go.
When Jesus does decide to act at Cana, it’s not because he was under family or social pressure to do it. When he changes water into wine it’s an act of grace. And what a lavish act it was.
“The grace that Jesus shows in this scene is an act of overflowing abundance,” Peterson writes. “Though we don’t know how many guests were at this wedding celebration, we might reasonably assume that 120 gallons of additional wine after the guests have had a good deal to drink already (verse 10) was more than enough. The setting of a wedding already engages the imagination of careful readers. It is an event that points to deep relational bonds, intimate connections, and the establishing of family. Such intimacy will be echoed within John’s Gospel as Jesus talks about how the disciples and he will “abide” in each other and how the disciples will ‘abide’ in his love (15:4, 9–10).”
There are many times in our lives when we fall short of things we need. Our medical insurance doesn’t pay all our bills. We can’t afford to send the kids to college. Our employer “right sizes” and we are out of a job.
The miracle at Cana is not a promise that if we have faith, all these shortages will be filled.
But it is a promise that Christ will be among us and will sustain us through all of life’s travails.
“The glory of Christ is revealed in love, in service, in community, in grace,” writes Professor Peterson. “There is no transfiguration story in John. Instead, Jesus’ glory is seen all through his ministry and is especially revealed as he is glorified in his death and resurrection.1
“There the wine overflows for us too.”